PTSD PUTS CHILD CUSTODY IN JEOPARDY

DepressionI’m a lawyer in Carlsbad, California.  A large part of my practice is family law, and many of my clients  are Marines from Camp Pendleton.  Once a service member has been diagnosed with PTSD, the diagnosis sticks like glue, having seriously adverse effects when there is a conflict regarding custody of small children.  Judges and minor’s counsel are disposed to believe all service members with PTSD are sooner or later bound to “snap” and hurt their kids. Convincing anyone otherwise is a tall order.  If anyone is aware of any studies regarding the correlation of unpredictable personal violence with  a diagnosis of PTSD, I would be much obliged for a citation.

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Stan Prowse

Military Families in Crisis

iStock_000006148116SmallMilitary families in crisis have a choice between military and civil protective orders.

 

Military protective orders can be obtained quickly and easily by an abused spouse by going to the other spouse’s command. The drawback is that they are usually all encompassing, preventing any contact at all between the offending spouse on one hand and the abused spouse and any minor children on the other.  A civil protective order, on the other hand, can be tailored to fit the particular situation.  For example, where there are minor children the offending spouse will usually be allowed to have  and to communicate with the abused spouse about the children, although often by email only.  If the situation is salvagable, a civil protective order is like to be the better alternative.

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PTSD and Child Custody

DepressionPTSD is a major obstacle in child custody disputes.

 

PTSD characterized in part by sudden aggressive outbursts or sudden violence will be a major obstacle to a current or former service member’s chances of obtaining unsupervised visitation with his minor children, much less joint physical custody.  The courts, as well as minor’s counsel, will put the children’s safety and freedom from emotional trauma ahead of all other considerations if they believe there is a risk that the member will “snap.”  Once there has been a diagnosis of PTSD, the member must accept the diagnosis, however unfair it may seem, rather than go into denial.  The way forward is to undergo all available psychotherapy and drug therapy, so that a solid mass of professional evidence is available that treatment has been willingly sought and successful.  In short, any member with PTSD in his record must be prepared to prove to a skeptical judge that he or she is not going to harm children or anyone else.

 

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Restraining Order Anarchy

HarassmentCalifornia’s restraining order laws threaten to drive us into a state of anarchy, or as Thomas Hobbes called it in Leviathan, the war of all against all.  So far our legislators have devised six of these things.  Best known to the general public are the two laws providing for restraining orders to prevent civil harassment and domestic violence. Mostly unknown to the general public are the other five, for restraining orders to prevent elder abuse, workplace violence, private postsecondary school violence, and transitional housing misconduct.

There’s a mandatory set of do it yourself forms for each of these, including instructions.  You can get a temporary restraining order (the “TRO”) without notice to the bad guy, a noticed hearing (a mini-trial) has to occur within 15 days, and at the hearing you can get a three year “permanent” injunction against the bad guy with “no contact” and “stay away” orders and other goodies.  For civil harassment and domestic violence there’s no filing fee, and you don’t have to post a bond to get the TRO (if you lose at the hearing, to pay the defendant his costs and any fees he incurs). Everyone and anyone can play.

As usual, good intentions started the ball rolling.  For decades you’ve been able to sue somebody for intentional infliction of severe emotional distress.  In theory you could get a temporary restraining order and a preliminary injunuction pending the trial, but it could take months to do it, as well as lawyers, a pile of custom paperwork, a bond, and lots of money.  Then after more months, there was a full dress trial.  This was injustice.  What was needed was a quicker, cheaper way to get an injunction stopping the infliction and thus the distress.

Domestice violence posed a similar problem.  The cops could arrest the offending spouse, but he or she would be out on bail and back home in a couple of days, throwing plates, punches, or worse.  Again, a quick, easy, and cheap way was needed for the battered spouse to get “no contact” and “stay orders” preventing future injuries.

These days the problem is two-fold.  First, too many people exaggerate if not lie about the harassment or the violence.  For example, if you’re holding a grudge aginst some one for some real or imagined slight, it’s easy to make up a story with all the required ingredients for legal harassment. Because most of the stories judges hear in these matters are “he said, she said,” TRO’s are seldom refused, and three year injunctions are the norm.  For a spouse contemplating divorce, an allegation of domestic violence is a particularly tempting way to get the upper hand, particularly if child custody will be an issue.

Second, too many police officers tell people they need to get TRO’s and injunuctions.  Experience indicates that when the police are called to deal with supposed harassment or domestic violence, they often tell the victim he or she must go to court and get a TRO, even if the victim would otherwise not do so.  The days of the Irish cop persuading people to calm down and make up are long gone.  In one domestic violence case, the first words of the first officer entering the house were, “Some one is going to jail tonight.” Despite the girlfriend’s pleas that the argument was over and her boyfriend shouldn’t be arrested, off to jail he went.  At least the police seem to be gender neutral.

In fairness to the judges and the police, there is something to be said for being cautious.  Failure to seek a TRO and an injunction, or a mistaken refusal to issue them, can sometimes lead to results nobody would want.  On the other hand, the existence of these streamlined remedies seems to encourage their unnecessary use, and to discourage people from avoiding situations where they might indeed be necessary.

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Divorce and Handsome Princes

Parents swear, and children sufferA frequent complaint among women seems to be, ‘Where have the men gone?’

I’ve been divorcing people for a long time, and I think I may know part of the answer.  In the vast majority of divorces, husbands are still the high earners.  Therefore, they wind up paying spousal support to their ex-wives for what seems like eternity.  Sometimes it is an eternity – they pay until their ex-wife dies.

To make matters worse, for decades divorce has been no fault.  But wives cheat too, and it generally takes two to tango, but a judge doesn’t care about that when spousal support (aka alimony) is under consideration.  It’s no fault divorce.

Most men are convinced ex-wives get the mine and ex-husbands get the shaft.  Even if the sterotype isn’t true, it’s a discouraging prospect for guys.

Women’s liberation has gone hand in hand with no fault divorce.  Even if the majority of wives are still the low earners, in the public arena women are equal to men, outperform men in school, and are on the verge of dominating at least one profession (the practice of law).  The ideal modern woman is self sufficient.

But despite their elevated status, personal observation indicates that the heart of Cinderella is still beating inside most modern women, in anticipation of finding a Handsome Prince.  Unfortunately, the heart of the Handsome Prince doesn’t seem to be beating inside most modern men.

They don’t seem to want the obligation of taking financial and emotional care of women who are supposedly equal or more equal than they are, particularly when they suspect the financial obligation may survive marriage, and when a would-be princess no longer demands proof of love and loyalty before a roll in the hay.

Whether or not they articulate it clearly, most modern males view the role of the Handsome Prince as a thankless task that’s more trouble than it’s worth.

A potential Handsome Prince now concludes, if women are so superior, so smart, and multitask like magicians, let them take care of themselves, and having reached that conclusion, the potential Handsome Prince renounces the throne.  A would-be Cinderella’s search for a Handsome Prince may be never ending.  With relatively few exceptions, there may only be boys out there, who are content to be commoners instead of royalty.

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Government by Fiat

In this blog, fiat means an authoritative or arbitrary order, not fix it again Tony.  Government by fiat would be government by orders issued by prince or a king, not by laws passed by a democratically elected legislature such as Congress.  Government by decree is same thing, although you might think decrees were more likely to be issued by a dictator.

Latin was the language of the Roman Empire.  Fiat comes from a Latin word meaning “to be done.”  Decree comes from a Latin word meaning “to decide.”  Since they’re about the same and both Latin, we’ll call them both decrees.  On the other hand, the word law comes from an Old Norse word, “log,” meaning a binding custom or practice of a community.

No wonder people like laws better than decrees.  Here in the United States, we also flatter ourselves that we are governed by laws rather than by men, the men alternative obviously standing for guys issuing decrees.  Are we really that lucky?  I don’t think so, at least not anymore.

For 80 years or so we’ve had something called administrative law.  It was one of my courses in law school.  Here’s the idea.  When Congress passes a law that’s complicated, it delegates the application of the law to administrators, also known as bureaucrats.  The delegation is right there in the law.  Sometimes it’s called “rule making authority.”

Then the bureaucrats make up specific rules based on the law.  The rules are called regulations.  How far afield the bureaucrats can go in doing this, and what processes they have to use to write and adopt the regulations, is the subject of administrative law.

As far as I can tell, Congress seldom, if ever, reviews regulations to make sure they’re what Congress intended them to be when it passed the laws.  Instead, people file lawsuits claiming that the bureaucrats exceeded their rule making authority.  Whether they did or they didn’t is decided by judges.

Wow!  Regulations seem to look more like decrees than laws, with the custom and practice of the community lost along the way in the mists of the Potomac River and the fog of Foggy Bottom. Now let’s look at something else that might make you feel less lucky.

Along with administrative law we have something called an executive order.  The President issues these orders as the chief executive of the federal government.  As background, remember that the President’s oath of office requires him to uphold the laws of the United States.

During World War II, President Roosevelt uprooted Japanese Americans from their homes and sent them to internment camps by executive order.  That’s still a hot potato.  For years nobody thought federal employees could unionize legally.  Then along came President Kennedy and issued an executive order that they could.  Surprise!

A few days ago President Obama issued an executive order halting deportation of a certain group of illegal aliens, suspending the enforcement of a law passed by Congress requiring their deportation.  Oops, executive orders also look suspiciously like decrees, and some seem to trump laws.

Federal regulations are assembled in the Code of Federal Regulations. In print the Code now takes up yards of library shelves.  More yards are on the way for ObamaCare.  In the meantime, the number and scope of executive orders have also increased considerably.

Myself, I’m not feeling too lucky.  Are we governed by laws rather than guys issuing decrees?  Would you rather be a Viking in your village banging your shield yea or nay, or a Roman in the Colessium hailing the Emporer? Think about it, do some of your own research, and form your own conclusions.

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Birthrates and the Future

iStock_000005176232XSmallBirth rates fascinate me.
, as somebody once said.

As prosperity increases, birthrates decline.  This appears to be a universal rule.  It takes roughly 2.2 births per female for both parents to reproduce themselves.  More, and population rises.  Less, and it declines.

The birth rate in the United States is above 2.2, but this exception only proves the rule.  The highest birthrates in the U.S. are among recent immigrants from less prosperous countries.  Among other people, the birthrate is below 2.2.

Italy has the lowest birthrate in Europe, despite the popular image of large families with many beaming bambinos.  If the trend continues, someday statistically there’ll be no Italians.  The Germans are about even.

What about other broader impacts?  Somebody is always predicting the world’s population will overwhelm the food supply.  But if you assume spreading prosperity, won’t the whole world’s population start shrinking someday and keep shrinking until there’s more food than we need?

Then there’s global warming.  If we’re doing it, won’t there be less of it if there are less of us?

The prosperity factor looks like a wild card to me.  I’ve never seen a decent explanation of how prosperity can increase or even continue in the face of population decline.  If it can’t, prosperity’s eventually going down.

Will birthrates go up if prosperity goes down?  I doubt it.  Reliable contraception and women’s liberation aren’t likely to disappear even if prosperity does.

Diehard environmentalists are sometimes accused of hating people.  Fewer people would probably mean more wilderness, so maybe they’re in luck.   I’m not sure about the rest of us.

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