Military divorces are different than civilian cases, and often times more complicated. That’s why the confusion was understandable when a potential client approached us with questions regarding how she should go about divorcing her husband who is an active-duty serviceman.
In this specific woman’s case, her biggest question was where. Though the couple has a home of record in Texas, the family is currently stationed in San Diego, California; she didn’t know which state would be best to file in.
We advised her to file here in San Diego so as to gain court-ordered spousal support and child support immediately. However, once filed here, and assuming the children have been here for over six months, the San Diego court will have continuing jurisdiction over the children. This means if she wished to move back to Texas (or to any state for that matter), she should do so immediately, hoping that her husband doesn’t file in California before the children have lived in Texas for over 6 months. If he did, the woman could be forced to return the children to their father. With this in mind, if she so wishes to move back to Texas, she should tell her husband where she will be reached, how she can be reached, and allow for him to visit their children- in writing. That way, there is zero room for an accusation of parental kidnapping.
Divorce is hard. It can be even harder for a family in the military. For more information on military divorce, visit our website: http://stanprowse.com/military-divorces-are-different
An active-duty military serviceman recently approached us with an inquiry regarding his wish to gain custody of his two sons, as the other siblings are over 18 years old and living independently. He and his wife had divorced in early 2013; at the time, both parents agreed it was in the children’s best interest to live with their mother. Since that time, he was stationed across the country in Virginia. On a visit back to California to see his newborn grandchild, it came to our potential client’s attention that his sons were living under unstable conditions. His ex-wife had been evicted, and since had taken the two younger children to live with a friend. Her driver’s license was suspended, her vehicle registration expired, and her car uninsured. These realities were very concerning to this man, hence why he came looking for a “quick resolution” to gain custody of the two boys.
The first thing this man needs to accept is that a quick resolution is highly unlikely. California has jurisdiction over the two children, and they won’t be able to move with him to Virginia without a successful motion in the San Diego Family Court for sole physical custody. The man’s ex-wife will presumably put up a fight, with or without the help of an attorney. He must also take into consideration what his sons want, as judges are supposed to listen to the feelings of children regarding child custody if they’re over the age of 14. This man needs to look at this situation holistically and see that the process for gaining custody after almost three years will be an uphill battle. Of course, nothing is impossible, and a military man equipped with perseverance most likely has the skill set to see this type of battle through. We wish him good luck!
For more information on military child custody, please visit our website at http://stanprowse.com/modifying-child-support-marine-or-sailor